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Researcher
09-26-2006, 10:35 AM
Comments and Opinions re the following would be appreciated.

INAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOUR

Regular readers of Traditional Karate will recognise my articles as nearly always being somewhat outspoken regarding many aspects of karate practise. For this I do not apologise, as all of the points I have tendered for revue are valid and important to the many karateka they refer to. I am not here as an advocate for sensationalism, but purely to voice the thoughts and concerns of many of the karateka who discuss their problems with me via the internet, as they quite often feel forgotten, overlooked, harassed and even abused.

Over the years I have had heard a few instances concerning this topic, twice from my own female students who also received unwanted “attention” from teachers from this group/association many years ago. I have always pondered whether to write regarding this matter but, following the recent revelations I have had conveyed to me, I believe that it is now time for me to support these people and offer their problems up for the information/judgement of the readers.

Traditional Karate Magazine has for a long time been recognised as being the fair and democratic voice of the Karateka, never shirking in its responsibility to its readers, and always willing to support the good name of UK karate, and for this reason I’m sure they will offer their support in eradicating this serious problem. I appreciate that this is a very contentious subject to be publicised in such a high profile magazine, but it is happening, and should be brought to the attention of all karateka, as well as offering some hope to the victims that it will be taken seriously, and hopefully stamped out.

It is my understanding that there are only 2 or 3 guilty parties involved in this dishonourable behaviour, all within the same group/association, and I sincerely hope that this article doesn’t open the floodgates for further accusations against other parties.

This article focuses on some of the methods used in hopefully, a minority of dojo
within UK karate. I DO apologise on this occasion for the severity of the contents.

In bona-fide dojo the Sensei is seen as the leading light hence, his/her words and actions should be totally absorbed and retained, as much as possible, for future reference, as normally these words and actions provide valuable insight into pertinent points of a student’s training.

The words provide for the explanation of technique, and all the required movement necessary to achieve it in the best way an individual can. They offer encouragement, support and the required knowledge in order to gain success.

Apparently, and unfortunately, some of the words used towards female karateka have a hidden agenda, which doesn’t have anything at all to do with karate, but in fact is targeted as sexual innuendo and even blatant suggestion and proposition. The words are more often than not verbal but, in some extreme cases, they are even to be found in written text in the form of emails, letters and gift cards. Both the emails and letters usually contain explicit sexual suggestion, enticement, offers and even demands to provide sexual experiences in the most lurid of text. Invariably the women targeted are single but, it has been known for even married women, and women in relationships, to also become targets. The sending of disgusting written emails and letters obviously proves that even having a supposedly extremely high senior grade, and title, doesn’t always imply that the authors have any intelligence, as emails and letters can be easily traced back to their point of despatch in this age of innovative forensic science, and high level computer technology. Telephone calls, calls and text messages via mobile phones are also used to pursue this disgusting behaviour.

As with all forms of threat, bribery or coercion the victim is nearly always provided with some form of reward for complying with the requests/demands of the aggressor. In normal society this is often seen as a monetary benefit, but invariably in karate it is the inappropriate progression through grade, or for those who refuse to capitulate to the demands, it may result in a reduction of grade level or even expulsion.

A sensei’s actions are viewed as the display of technique, attributes, and honest and worthwhile principles. They are in constant view by the students, and are seen as the physical requirements that a student needs to evaluate and perform in order to progress.

Inappropriate actions can often be camouflaged as accidental, but to the recipient they are obviously premeditated and invariably unwanted. Sensei of both gender are always very wary about how they touch students when trying to correct their stances or techniques, as it can lead to embarrassment for both the sensei and the student, but the people who use their status as teachers to attain sexual gratification, invariably touch, pat, grope and stroke their victims in places on the body that legally would be deemed as SERIOUS SEXUAL ASSAULT, if reported to the police. Again the rewards can be high for those who accept such disgusting behaviour, as instant advancement in grade would be acceptable to a certain minority of students but, for the majority who find this intolerable, the result is more often than not ridicule during the classes, or again even expulsion.

As with any club, or gathering of people, rumours very often run amok, with many being groundless, but some having fact behind them. They often say that “walls have ears” and children and teenagers definitely do. Are we supposed to stand back and let the kids listen to, and view, some of the shameful happenings that are occurring within some dojo? Do we, as responsible karateka, want our names to be associated with the sort of people who intimidate females, and quite often force them into positions that they are invariably unwilling to be in; I for one think NOT.

The other frightening concern with this is that these aggressors may even be viewing young girls, who are students, as future victims ….. this thought fills me with HORROR.

Below is a genuine written statement from one of the victims.

“I am a female karateka who, 18 months ago, went to train with a group headed by a very high profile, high ranking and titled teacher. Initially I was pleased to be part of such a group but before long the head teacher, a married man, started making suggestive remarks to me about how I looked and how I moved. Not wishing to over-react, or cause trouble of any kind, I kept quiet and hoped the problem would go away if I simply ignored it.

However, this soon progressed to emails and phone calls during which he suggested that we have an affair. I was very shocked by this and made it clear that I dated neither married men nor my teachers. At that time I had just begun a new relationship but this did not seem to make any difference to this senior teacher.

He became even more insistent, the emails and phone calls became more frequent, and more graphic, to the point where it was becoming distressing to even go and train. I received letters and gifts from him, and even a signed Valentines Day card. Eventually I had to stop training there altogether, as not only did I feel humiliated, degraded and abused but, I was also concerned that his constant pursuit of me may soon become apparent to other students. I know that he has told numerous other senior grades within his Organisations, and posted it on his websites, that I was expelled for misconduct, when in fact I left due to the trauma I experienced from him on a continual basis.

Many people have suggested to me that I could sue for sexual harassment, as I have both written and signed letters and cards, as well as witnesses who are prepared to vouch for the fact that they also overheard/listened into the foul content of his phone calls. I am concerned though that this would bring not only this offender, but also innocent people in this organisation, and karate as a whole into disrepute, and could affect the training of other innocent parties.

I am very grateful to Peter Evans for taking the trouble to highlight this problem, and also to Traditional Karate Magazine for agreeing to publish this article.

I hope that other influential masters and teachers reading this will take the issue seriously, and that karateka of both sexes, and all ranks, will be vigilant in ensuring this does not happen in their dojo.”

I have been advised to withhold my name for legal reasons.


The above points are not fantasy or unfounded allegations, as we can provide the written evidence to support these claims, but highlights of some of the problems that are pertinent to female karateka. These acts are not only intimidating but also extremely upsetting for the victims. In modern society these problems should not happen, and the offending culprits should be exposed, and shamed in public, to protect present, and future, female karateka. Far too many promising female karateka have ceased their training due to unwanted sexual harassment and abuse.

Sexual harassment/abuse is illegal, and furthermore it should not be countenanced within any dojo. If we want to see the continued influx of female students into dojo we must act now, in order to ensure that there are no more victims.

These offenders know who they are, and I urge them to cease their intolerable activities before they further blight the good name of karate in the UK. Continued repetition of these acts must surely result in the pursuance of legal action.

Obviously we haven’t actually named the offenders, not out of fear of repercussions or legal action, but for the fact that we, as responsible karateka, do not wish to cause upset or ill-feeling amongst past or present students, or other Senior Grades and Associations involved with these people, we just want them to cease what they are doing.

Contact details are provided below for readers who are keen to react to this subject, or for the provision of further substance matter.

As stated, this article is featured in the October 2006 issue of Traditional Karate Magazine, but posted on here will offer a far greater range of opinion and comment from people outside of the UK.


Peter Evans

Tripitaka of AA
09-26-2006, 01:37 PM
Hi Peter,

So this is the article that you sub,mitted for publication in Traditional Karate magazine? I wonder if you could highlight exactly where the article starts and finishes. The extra comments before and after are losing themselves in the text.

Comments? A valid topic for an article. Specific people described but not named, well, it might bother me a little if I did not already have a good idea to whom it refers. I would hope that the article and its intention would be good enough for printing regardless of whether it deals with a real person or not. To that end, I think it could have been written in even more general terms to get the point across. As it stands it reads like an article about one man, in one group, that has had all the key identifying features removed for the sake of protecting the publishers from court action. Whilst I understand this precaution, to my eyes it still includes some of the traces of "personal" crusade that has marked recent threads on E-Budo.


But hey, what do I know!

Katsujinken
09-26-2006, 01:54 PM
Peter
I totally agree with David Noble's general comments especially:

'As it stands it reads like an article about one man, in one group, that has had all the key identifying features removed for the sake of protecting the publishers from court action'

The last bit of the above paragraph I am not sure I agree with, at least to my legally trained mind. These are commented on in Mr Noble's post. The article should definitely be written in more general terms.

Regards

Researcher
09-26-2006, 01:59 PM
Hi Peter,

So this is the article that you sub,mitted for publication in Traditional Karate magazine? I wonder if you could highlight exactly where the article starts and finishes. The extra comments before and after are losing themselves in the text.

Comments? A valid topic for an article. Specific people described but not named, well, it might bother me a little if I did not already have a good idea to whom it refers. I would hope that the article and its intention would be good enough for printing regardless of whether it deals with a real person or not. To that end, I think it could have been written in even more general terms to get the point across. As it stands it reads like an article about one man, in one group, that has had all the key identifying features removed for the sake of protecting the publishers from court action. Whilst I understand this precaution, to my eyes it still includes some of the traces of "personal" crusade that has marked recent threads on E-Budo.


But hey, what do I know!

Hi David

This is just the first article that I stated on e-budo that I submitted to Traditional Karate magazine, there are subsequent ones too, as well as many previous.

The subsequent one deals with grades / titles etc.

Oh, by the way, if you read it correctly I believe that it states 2 or 3 people in the same organisation, and not just one man.

May I suggest that you keep an eye on Traditional Karate magazine, as well as on e-budo.

Kchef
09-27-2006, 11:08 AM
I'm not sure I fully understand what Peter is trying to do here. If he wants us to debate the actions of a sensei and how inappropriate they were, I've no problem at all with that. His statement alone shows them as being wrong and I doubt others would argue the point. A teacher should not ever abuse their position and take advantage of a student or anyone else for that matter.

If he wants to debate the individual then I suppose his (the person being attacked) view is also important for us to hear. It appears as if there is an underlining tone that Peter may have a grudge against a person and he wants others to come to his side. We clearly don't have enough information here for us to decide whether he is right or wrong. This all appears to be second hand info and that should always be looked at skeptically.

I would almost say that Peter has a specific grudge against E-Budo, but that is how it comes across to me. As a whole, I would say that Peter’s argument is poorly written and that he needs to go back and gather his thoughts and then put them down in a manner in which others who don’t have the info he does can draw a reasonable conclusion. I can’t make any judgment calls at this point.

K. Allen

cxt
09-27-2006, 12:30 PM
Reseacher

Have to telll you that if the person in question did what is claimed--then they need to be run out of town on rails.

That being said.

This kind of "anonymous" attack with unidentifed people making unsupported/unproven claims is exactly the kind of thing that should be avoided.

You rightly highlight and focus on a serious topic that NEEDS to be addressed.

I'm not sure that a "signed Valentines Days card" rises to the level of abuse--but them again I am not seeing all of what you see.

If however, your "hinting" about specifc people---well, then I say snipeing from the shadows is wrong.

If you have direct, concrete information of ongoing abuse--then I suggest that you contact the local authorities.
If abuse HAS been going on then it needs to be punished, if it IS going on then it needs to be stopped and punished.

If it has not, the people involved need to be allowed to clear their names.

"Whisper" campagins have regretably been used in the past to discredit and harm innocent people.

I understand the fears, both personal and legal about naming names----but in the end, silence only leads to more victems.

mrtriumph
10-04-2006, 11:50 PM
I feel i have to add to this, the article Researcher, has used , concernes my wife ( soon to be ex ) whilst some of it is probably true, she has ommited certain facts, that show her involvement and honesty in a different light.

One has to ask, why did she carry on training under this person- she is not a young girl, in her words, " I will not be dictated to by any man ", neither is she a low grade who knows no different.

Other things, i feel are not appropriate to say on this forum, as are of a personal nature , but reflect dishonesty on her part that in my mind are unbecoming of a martial artist


Michael baddeley

Tripitaka of AA
10-05-2006, 12:52 AM
Thank you Mr Baddeley (if that is indeed your name).

Your comments serve as a reminder that by the very nature of the medium, we cannot imagine to know all the facts without some independent means of verification. This is one reason why the anecdote you refer to has been avoided by most members when discussing this issue. Whilst we have been influenced by the story, I feel most people have focussed on those areas where we might, as martial artists, have relevant experience and knowledge with which to judge the evidence.

When it comes to matters of the heart or bedroom, sensible people will step away and wait until the morning papers give the verdict...

P Goldsbury
10-05-2006, 01:39 AM
Hello Mr Baddeley,

Welcome to E-Budo.

I am a moderator of E-Budo and moderate the forums containing the threads involving Mr Grayston. One of these threads contained an allegation made by Mr Grayston concerning your wife and I have undertaken to keep the thread accessible until she makes some response. Mr Grayston made the allegation several months ago and there has been no response.

However, Mr Evans' article deals with general issues and I think it is a bad idea if readers of the article can identity the actual persons involved.

The moderators have already discussed this thread and I can tell you that it will not remain in this forum for much longer. I am leaving it here for the moment, so that you can read this response.

Best wishes,