Sensei-Deshi relationship
I agree with others' posting that whichever group/sensei promoted your upsetting student should be contacted; and that it can help a student to understand why "your way" is correct if it's explained to him/her. But my experience is some teachers speak, others just do and some demonstrate or do all three. It's the student's "job" to figure out if he/she's
following the teacher correctly and the teacher's job
to check if the student has got the right idea. Isn't
there a saying: the first 10 years, follow one teacher
and don't criticize or wonder if what (s)he's teaching is right; the next 10 years, a student can begin looking at others' styles; the next 10 years the student may choose which ways are best for him/her?
But anyway, "budo" is first and finally, about respect for the teacher, and for other practitioners. If a student doesn't feel that way and the teacher has tried his/her best, then the so-called student should be asked to learn somewhere else. Another saying from an Aikido teacher was: "To teach is to learn."
I'm sorry you had that sad experience but as another poster said, you have learned from it and that's a happy thing. Pam, Kendo (etc.)
student/teacher etiquette
Mike,
First of all there is no need for you to apologize for your english. I am assuming that you are Japanese. There are so many more Japanese people, especially Martial Artists who try to adapt to the English than there are Americans who try to adapt to the Japanese. For the last 17 years I have studied in a very, very, classical Gojuyru school with a very traditional American Sensei. I have struggled time and time again with etiquette and trying to understand the way my study must be approached in order to better understand the cultural context of the style that I study. We have from time to time had the kinds of students come to our school to train like the one you are describing. Many years ago, Sensei used to get excited too when he would see a student with so much potential who was seemingly so eager to learn. Every single time, the student wanted more, more, more, his own way, doing whatever he thought he wantedto do to way in advance of where he was suppose for the process of his learning. It was a struggle sometimes. What my Sensei did was just to follow the old tradition. It takes time to get to know the character of the individual you are training. As an insturctor you have the right to decide not to teach a particular student if they begin, at any time, to show that they are disrespectful to the art or to you. After all if you teach a student long enough, he or she will have tools that are possibly deadly. That is a very big responsibility that you have. You have the right and the responsibility to expect a student to do what you teach, when you teach it, and how you teach it or go find a school that will allow him to acquire information without any real learning. Actually, that is what he is denying himself by his behavior.
Maybe you need to talk with some other instructors who are masters and can help you to be stronger in this area until you can establish better habits for dealing with these kinds of students.
Do you have a group of instructors who