I normally keep my mouth shut, but let me help...
Hello,
I've been in your situation and for the most part am still in it. Let me offer a few words of both encouragement and advise:
One, tapes will NEVER do Daito Ryu justice; they never show proper angles and even if they did, they can't begin to explain the "feeling" of having the technique applied properly to your arm, leg, wrists (especially the wrists!), etc.
Two, I know what it's like to be far from LEGITIMATE Daito Ryu - you can easily find the fakes (private message me for details). Mainline Daito Ryu can be had at least a few times a year in Maryland, Kodokai in Central California, New York, Virginia and a few other places, Takumakai may be a little harder but is available in Florida and I think New York, Daibukan in the midwest, Roppokai in California and I think North Carolina... the point is... via seminars you can be exposed and if you practice the basics, and meet others interested... maybe learn or maintain ukemi by practicing aikido or judo... maybe chat w/ people here on e-budo and other forums... it all helps when you do this long distance.
Three - and this is the most important one... DON'T GET DISCOURAGED! It may take you YEARS to learn the basics, but SO WHAT! I'd rather spend a year just doing ukemi and learning it right then to screw up a fall if someone from the Kondo Sensei's school or Hisa Sensei's school or Inoue Sensei's school got hold of me!
Oh yea... tapes... ask some of the folks on the forum here NICELY and they will eventually answer you. I'm too much the beginner to respond properly, though I like Kondo Sensei's tapes. Good luck in your search.
Regards,
Carlos Estrella
E. Carlos Estrella, Jr.
The strength of a man is not measured in how much he can lift, how many he can fight or how much he can endure, but in his capacity to admit his limitations and learn to successfully circumvent them.